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Before booking your wedding reception, you should gather a list of questions to ask the site manager. Use these suggested questions to get you started:

Ala Carte Reception Costs

Reception sites have different ways of breaking down their costs. Avoid any confusion when comparing wedding reception sites by requesting an itemized list of fees you’ll use for your event. (Tip: Have an idea of your guest count beforehand since your count will influence the estimated costs.) Questions to ask:

• What is the facility rental fee?
• What is the food cost?
• What is the beverage cost?
• If you want to hold your ceremony at the site, what is the fee?
• Is there a set-up and breakdown fee?
• What is the staffing fee?
• What is the fee for security personnel?
• Is there a parking/valet fee?
• What is the overtime fee?

Wedding Packages

Some locations offer wedding packages, which can be both cost-effective and convenient, but make sure to inquire about exactly what’s included and not included in the package. Questions to ask:

• What basics are included in the wedding package?
• Is the wedding cake also included? If so, can the design be customized?
• Does the package include floral arrangements? Can they be customized?
• Are linens included in the wedding package?

Booking Terms

Make sure that the site contract meets your needs by asking these questions:

• What is the length of the facility rental?
• Is there an overtime fee?
• Will you have use of the entire reception site?
• What is the deposit?
• When is the remainder of the fee due?
• What is the cancellation policy?
• Are there any music or noise restrictions?
• Does the site have any decorating restrictions?
• Will there be another party during, before or after yours? If so, how will this affect your event?

Essential Services

Determine which of these services the site provides and which you’ll need to contact on your own. Questions to ask:

• Is there an in-house caterer? If not, can the site refer you to a caterer? Do they have caterers that are under exclusive contract to the site?
• Does the reception site have a list of recommended vendors?
• Can the ceremony be held on site? If not, are there suitable locations nearby?
• Is an on-site staff available (coordinator, waiters, bartenders, etc.)?
• Does the site provide tables, chairs, plates, silverware, glasses and other essentials?

Amenities

Some of these important extras may help you determine your perfect venue:

• Are changing rooms available for the bridal party?
• Does the site offer guests accommodations?
• Are there hotels that are convenient to the reception site?
• Are there on-site locations for photo opportunities?
• Are there sufficient restroom facilities?
• Is there a coatroom?
• Is the facility in a desirable location?
• Is there adequate parking available?

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There are several things you should consider when choosing your wedding reception location. Shopping for your site is a lot like finding a mate–you obviously want charm and personality–but make sure that all of your needs are met. Looks aren’t everything! Use these tips to help you to find your perfect match.

What’s your budget?

If you’re planning a wedding reception of about 200 – 300 guests, you might expect to spend between $10,000 – $16,000 for the reception hall, your food, your bar service and any additional reception hall rentals. Use this handy budget guide to create a realistic budget for your wedding and reception.  Once you know how much you have allocated to spend, you’ll be able to shop around for the best location within your budget.

What is the size of your guest list?

First, make sure the room is large enough to accommodate the number of people on your guest list. The space will look large, when empty, but wedding essentials–such as tables, chairs, a buffet, a bar, the band or DJ and the dance floor–will take up a lot of space. Also, you’ll want to make sure that your guests have plenty of elbowroom. To get an idea of the actual “living space” of your venue, ask if you can visit the reception site while another wedding is being set up.

What’s your style?

When considering reception site, consider the color palette of your party. Your site doesn’t have to be done in the exact colors as your planned decorations, but it shouldn’t clash either. Also, consider your theme. Besides the basic banquet hall, you might consider a country club, a mansion, a museum or other venue that suits your wedding reception theme a bit better than the typical site. Last, try to visit the reception site at the same time of day that you’ve chosen for your reception, so you can get a feel for exactly what the lighting will look like.

Do any of your guests have special needs?

When choosing your venue, take into consideration any special needs that your guests might have. If you have elderly guests or guests in wheelchairs, make sure that there are bathroom facilities available to them. You don’t want them to have to travel up and down stairs to get where they need to go.

Are there enough parking spaces?

Make sure your reception site has ample parking or is near a parking garage or a street where it’s legal to park. If parking is a problem at your ideal location, look for other ways to get your guests to the reception. Your site might have a shuttle or van service available to take your guests from wedding to reception and back. If not, you’ll have to make these arrangements yourself.

Read next week’s post, “Wedding Reception Planning: Questions to Ask before booking your Location,” for great tips on what to ask your potential reception site managers.

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You’re engaged, and you’re ready to start planning for your big day! The best place to start? Right here…with these 13 Top Wedding Resource Sites!

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Team Wedding : Team Wedding wants to be a part of your wedding planning team. Just name a wedding topic, and they can help you with it! Browse by category or state for some terrific planning tips and resources.

Brides.com : Brides.com has a wide range of galleries and topics for you to research, and they have tools that you can use such as budget, to-do list, guest list, and seating chart guides.

The Knot: The Knot has tools, great articles, videos and honeymoon ideas. Check out their photo galleries and wedding planning tips, plus peruse “Grooms + Guys” and “Maids + Moms” for some specific wedding strategies.

MyWedding.com: MyWedding.com offers and “Ideas and Trends” blog, free wedding websites and over 100 local wedding guides to help you plan your wedding.

Perfect Wedding Guide : At Perfect Wedding, you can find vendors, get ideas, go shopping and attend events. This is a terrific comprehensive online wedding guide for brides and wedding planners.

Green Elegance Weddings : Offers eco-friendly wedding tips for couples who want to leave a small green footprint when they get married. They offer wedding contests and green wedding news too.

FrugalBride.com: Canada’s number one online wedding magazine, FrugalBride.com,  is a great resource for brides that offers wedding bulletin boards, frugal wedding crafts and budget tracking worksheets for weddings. They also offer a “Bride’s Planner,” a “Groom’s Planner” and “Vendor Tips.”

GayWeddings.com: If you’re planning a non-traditional wedding, GayWeddings.com discusses gay and lesbian wedding questions that you may have. They also offer products, resources and information networking to same-sex couples seeking to affirm their life-long commitments to each other through commitment ceremonies, civil unions, domestic partnerships, civil marriage and other alternative weddings.

InStyleWeddings : Want to plan a classy, celebrity-style wedding? The InStyle Wedding website can help you plan your dream wedding. Even if you can’t afford a lavish wedding, you can get fabulous tips and ideas here.

WeddingChannel.com: If you’d like the answers to all your wedding planning questions, WeddingChannel.com is a great resource, and they also provide tools like bride checklists and budget calculators.

WeddingSolutions.com: WeddingSolutions.com offers “Real Reviews from Real Brides Like You,” “Celebrity News and Gossip,” wedding registries and a multitude of wedding resources and advice.

DestinationWeddings.com : DestinationWeddings.com offers a full service “one stop shopping” approach which has one goal in mind–to make the planning and coordination of your Destination Wedding as simple and stress-free as possible.

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As stated in Part 1 and Part 2 of  “Bridal Shower Theme Ideas,” a bridal shower should celebrate…and accentuate…the bride’s personality.  As the party planner, in order to come up with a great theme, make a list of all of the bride’s “loves.” Maybe she loves wine, maybe she loves the color red, maybe she’s a homebody and can’t wait to decorate her home, or maybe she’s super-excited about her honeymoon. List everything that you can think of that helps describe the bride. Once you have the list in hand, use these Bridal Shower Theme Ideas to help you plan the perfect get-together for the bride-to-be.

Garden Shower

Is the bride-to-be an avid gardener? Then why not hold a garden party! Gifts for the bride and groom might include a variety of plants or gardening tools. Not sure what to buy? Gift cards from a local nursery would be great. How about having a tree planted in the couple’s yard or a pot, if they don’t have a home yet. Favors could include seed packets, fresh flowers, or garden tools.

Tea Party Shower

A tea party is a timeless theme. Serve tea along with finger foods, and for a bit of fun, have each guest wear a fancy hat and gloves. This type of shower is less involved than a dinner party, and the theme would be perfect for a mid-afternoon celebration. Bridal gifts might include dinnerware, glasses, place settings, teas, etc. Favors could include a small teapot or teacup with a small assortment of tea.

Honeymoon Shower

Whether it’s an exotic beach location, a camping trip or a different locale, a honeymoon shower should celebrate the couple’s honeymoon destination. Gifts should follow the theme, so let guests know what the couple’s needs are for travel. Luggage would be a great gift for this type of shower, as well as gift cards for the bride’s favorite boutiques. Excellent shower favors would be beach towels, if the location is beach-themed or candles or lanterns, if a camping trip is in order. The favor should be relevant to the theme and may be used as part of the shower décor.

Pajama Party Shower

Want a girl’s night in? Have a pajama party…complete with P.J.s! Everyone should arrive in their cutest pajamas and bring gifts to pamper the bride. Activities might include manicures, pedicures, facials and massages. Fun party favors for the girls might be personalized gifts such as spa slippers, toiletry bags or cosmetic cases.

Scrapbooking Shower

Have your guests get creative, by bringing photos, recipes and other memorabilia of their friendship with the bride. Provide each guest with a blank page or two of the scrapbook to decorate as they wish. The bride will end up with a great book of memories! Party favors could include monogrammed photo albums or picture frames.

Photo invitations are a great way to announce your wedding and are a great keepsake for your invitees.

As stated in Part 1 of  “Bridal Shower Theme Ideas,” a bridal shower should celebrate…and accentuate…the bride’s personality.  As the party planner, in order to come up with a great theme, make a list of all of the bride’s “loves.” Maybe she loves wine, maybe she loves the color red, maybe she’s a homebody and can’t wait to decorate her home, or maybe she’s super-excited about her honeymoon. List everything that you can think of that helps describe the bride. Once you have the list in hand, use these Bridal Shower Theme Ideas to help you plan the perfect get-together for the bride-to-be.

Couples Patio Shower

If you’re getting couples together, host an outdoor patio shower! Fire up the barbecue, entertain outside, and have guests bring a gift for the couple’s patio. Super party favors for your guests might include a bottle of your favorite barbecue sauce and a monogrammed chef’s apron and mitt.

Couples Home Improvement Shower

This shower is great for the do-it-yourself couple! Even the man-of-the-house will appreciate the gifts when guests give you tools and supplies to fix up your home or apartment. If you don’t know exactly what the bride and groom need, request gift cards to their favorite stores. A nice take-home gift for your guests would be an engraved tape measure, so that you’ll guest will think of you whenever they use it.

Bed & Breakfast Shower

Host this shower in the morning and serve a breakfast buffet. Have your guests bring gifts for the bedroom and kitchen. Linens, bath luxuries, candles, kitchen utensils, condiments and gourmet foods would make great gifts for the bride and her man. Guests could be given candles, linen sprays and bath salts for their own romantic bedtimes.

Kitchen Shower

Gather up all of the bride and groom’s friends and family and have them give them their favorite recipes and a gift for their kitchen. Have the guests’ recipe “match” the type of gift they’re bringing. If they bring a recipe for a cake, cake pans are in order. If the recipe were for soup, a stockpot would be the perfect gift. A great present for your guests would be recipe cards with their name on them, so as they pass a recipe along, the recipient will remember where it came from.

Christmas Shower

If the bride and groom are having a winter wedding, why not have a Christmas shower? Ask your guests to bring Christmas ornaments for your first tree and other holiday decorations that have meaning to them. You might reciprocate by giving guests their own Christmas ornaments with your wedding information on them.

Room to Room Shower

The newlyweds are gonna need help with every room in their home or apartment, so why limit the gift list to the bedroom or kitchen? Assign guests a specific room of the house or yard. Each guest should bring a gift for their specific room. A nice gift for your guests might be a nice 5” x 7” picture frame.

Stock the Pantry Shower

Similar to the kitchen party, the pantry shower will get the bride and groom ready to get things cooking! Have your guests bring a recipe and all the dry ingredients needed to make it. With cooking made this easy, the bride and her man will be off to a great start. A great gift for your guests? Again, the recipe cards with their name on them…or your wedding info…would be a great idea!

Next week, we’ll give you even more bridal shower ideas in Part 3 of “Bridal Shower Theme Ideas.”

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Lisa Bakewell

A bridal shower should celebrate…and accentuate…the bride’s personality. As the party planner, in order to come up with a great theme, make a list of all of the bride’s “loves.” Maybe she loves wine, maybe she loves the color red, maybe she’s a homebody and can’t wait to decorate her home, or maybe she’s super-excited about her honeymoon. List everything that you can think of that helps describe the bride. Once you have the list in hand, use these Bridal Shower Theme Ideas to help you plan the perfect get-together for the bride-to-be.

Wine and Cheese Tasting Shower

If the bride loves wine, arrange an afternoon or evening of wine tasting. This shower can be held at the bride’s favorite winery or someone’s house. Include different kinds of wine and  add cheese for guests to sample. Shower gifts might include wine, wine glasses or other wine-themed gifts. Guests can take home their wine glass charm as a party favor.

Makeover Shower

Inviting a small group of friends to the shower? How about doing makeovers? You can either invite a makeup consultant to do the makeovers, such as a  Mary Kay or Avon representative, or you can have a do-it-yourself party. Gifts for the bride might include lovely lotions, nail polishes, facial creams and body washes. Guests might go home with a small mani/pedi kit.

Naughty & Nice Shower

If the bride is all about fun and games, you might hold this type of shower. Each guest should bring one naughty gift for the bride’s honeymoon, and one nice (normal) bridal shower gift. All of the naughty gifts can be collected and placed in a satin pillowcase for use on the couple’s honeymoon night. As party favors, you might fill another satin pillowcase with some naughty and some nice small gifts, and have each of the guests reach in to pick one. Could be great fun!

Stock the Bar Shower

Ask guests to bring their favorite alcoholic beverages and/or mixers to help the bride stock her bar. For a stress-free, mess-free time, consider holding this shower at the bride’s favorite bar or restaurant. For party favors, guests might receive cocktail shakers, monogrammed cocktail glasses or wine glasses.

Lingerie Shower

The groom will love you for this one! If the bride and her guests aren’t shy, why not plan a lingerie party? You can set the mood with candles, cocktails and chocolates, and ask each of the guests to bring a gift of lingerie for the bride. A great guest party favor might be a scented sachet, scented candles or a fabulous linen spray.

Save the Date Wedding Magnets are a great way to keep your wedding date in plain view for your guests!

Lisa Bakewell

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Looking to shave your wedding budget? Then look no further than your guest list. Trimming the fat here can save you hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars! Use these tips to keep the dough from flying out of your wallet.

Can’t decide? Then don’t! It’s that easy. Sure, you may feel like the bad girl if you don’t invite certain friends and family, but if you have doubts, face it…the person doesn’t mean that much to you.

Use the rule of  “thirds.” Split your guest list three ways…A third of your guests should be from your family, a third from his and a third should be friends that you and your guy want to invite. If your family…or his…wants to invite more than their third of the guests, ask them to pay.

Invite them all or none at all. If you and your man aren’t going to invite all of your co-workers, don’t invite any of them…especially if your workplaces are small. If you do decide to invite your co-workers, though, make sure the boss is invited, as well.

Invite them to both events. If you invite a guest to your wedding, you MUST invite them to the reception. You’ll look cheap…and like you’re hunting for gifts…if you try to invite guests to the wedding only and not the reception.

Make your wedding a no-kid zone. This might not be possible for immediate family, but friends and extended family should understand. The kiddies won’t be drinking your alcohol, but they’ll still need to eat. And don’t they tend to waste the food anyway? Keep your wedding kid-free, where possible.

Haven’t seen someone for years? Might want to leave them off the list. Unless it’s a “must invite” family member, you may look like you’re “gift shopping” if you reach out to someone you haven’t seen in a long time.

Will they actually travel to your wedding? It might be as easy as making the call. If your friend or a family member lives a considerable distance from where your wedding will be held, ask them if they’ll be able to attend. If not, take them off your list and just send an announcement once you and your man have wed.

Weddings aren’t a reciprocal event. Just because someone invited you to his or her wedding, doesn’t mean that you have to return the favor.

Leave off plus-ones. This might be tricky, but if you really need to shave serious money off of your budget, you may consider leaving off “and guest” on your wedding invitations. Sure, you might feel that this is a little tacky, but could save you a bundle. Plus, who knows? Maybe a couple of your “single” guests may hook up and have a really great time.

A couple of caveats:

• Be sure to consult with your parents before cutting people associated with them. Some of your parents’ friends may be offended if they’re not invited, and this may put a strain on their relationship. If you’re not sure…ask!
• Limiting dates may help lower your wedding expenses, but be sensitive when it comes to spouses, life partners or long-term relationships. These guests should always be allowed a “plus-one” invite.

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Lisa Bakewell

How to tell the difference between cold feet and more serious problems

Almost everyone gets nervous before their wedding…thus the terms pre-wedding jitters or cold feet. And, most often, these feelings are nothing to worry about, but they are real. What you need to determine is whether or not your feelings are just apprehension about the major life changes that you’re getting ready to make or a red flag warning you that there’s something more serious going on…and you might want to call off the wedding.

Strategies for overcoming cold feet

You’re nervous, but you’re still excited: You’re probably just suffering from pre-wedding jitters and have nothing to worry about. Go ahead and get married.

You’re feeling stressed out about the wedding planning.

• Try to determine if sweating the small details of your wedding is causing you to feel nervous. If you think this may be the problem, ease off on the plans for a bit…or scale them down altogether. This may go a long way to alleviate your nerves.
• Designate one night per week that you and your significant other DON’T talk about wedding details. Spend this time together as a couple…go on a date or just spend time like you did before you began planning your wedding.
• Take a mini vacation or a long weekend. If you can’t afford a full-fledged getaway, just spend time pampering one another.

You’re worried about what it’s going to be like as a married couple.

• Write down what’s making you nervous and talk with your future spouse about your concerns. You may find that you’ll form a tighter bond with one another. Maybe your soon-to-be spouse is having some of the same worries.
• Talk to happily married couples to find out their secrets for success. Friends or family members who have spent a lot of years together and still love one another will have lots of advice for you. They’ll also be able to alleviate a lot of your concerns about what married life is like.
• Consider talking to a couple’s therapist or priest before your wedding to help hash out any of your concerns. Pre-wedding counseling will bring you closer together and allow you to air your concerns in a safe environment.

If, on the other hand, any of these situations are true, you may have cause for concern, and you may want to call off the wedding:

• You’ve discovered that your future spouse has a drug or alcohol problem and is not in recovery or refuses to go for help.
• Your future spouse is violent towards you. If he has been prior to the wedding, it’s a certainty that the abuse will continue after the wedding.
• Your future spouse has been unfaithful…or you’ve been unfaithful. Chances are, if you or your future husband has cheated before the wedding, not much will change afterwards.
• You are dreading your wedding day…and you have been for more than a month. Dread is different than nerves. If you are feeling depressed in any way about your wedding, you should talk to a therapist or counselor about your concerns.
• You don’t agree on whether or not to have children. This is not a conversation to have AFTER the wedding. Don’t go into the marriage thinking that you’ll be able to change your spouse’s mind.
• Your family and friends don’t like your future spouse. If the majority of your family and friends don’t like your fiancé, you should find out why. Maybe they see something that you don’t.
• You want to call off the wedding, but you’re worried about hurting your fiancé. If you’re having grave concerns about getting married, it’s best to postpone the wedding. It’s much less painful to cancel the wedding before it happens than to get a divorce later. Heed these concerns, and find someone to talk to about them.

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In Part 1 of Wedding Planning: Tips to Tone Down Tension, we discussed tips on relieving the strife between you and your soon-to-be husband…while planning for your wedding.  Here are some more tips to help keep the tension level at a minimum:

He doesn’t care about your religion or family traditions. Consider this: Maybe he doesn’t even know what’s expected of him. Maybe he doesn’t think you care whether or not he participates in your traditions or religion. If you handle this situation calmly, and with sensitivity (giving him the benefit of the doubt), you may find that your conversation will bring you closer together, giving you both the opportunity to discuss which of your families’ traditions and religious practices you’d like to include in your life together.

You can’t agree on the wedding location. You want to get married in your hometown, but he wants to get married where you reside together. Consider this another opportunity to form a closer bond, and ask him, “Why do you want to get married at home?” You may find that having his friends at his wedding is more important to him than having his family there. If this is the case, maybe you can compromise. Maybe have a small wedding and dinner party in your hometown and reserve the big celebration where you live…with friends.

Wedding planning is causing strife. Sure you want your wedding day to be perfect, but is your wedding planning becoming more important than your relationship? Make sure that you’re not letting “Bridezilla” behavior come between you and your mate. Sure, you want a terrific wedding day, but it would be a shame to be standing at the altar by yourself. Keep your future in mind, and don’t let your man lose sight of  why he fell in love with you in the first place.

He’s worried about divorce…before the wedding! Prenuptial agreements have taken a bad rap, because they involve the issues of trust and commitment. Sure, it’s easy to take offense when your man is so intent on having one (it makes you think that HE thinks the marriage isn’t going to last), but consider this…this may another area where you and your man can bond on deeper level. Spend some quality time, with him, discussing your essential financial issues. Get to know how each of you feels about money, trusts, debts, etc. Make it a learning experience instead of a fight.

He wants his old girlfriend to attend the wedding and reception. OK. This one can be tough to take, but consider this…he chose you over her, so you’ve already won the battle. Your best course of action may be to take the high road and get to know her. This will show him that you’re comfortable in your relationship with him and that you’re not worried his old flame will steal him away from you.

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Lisa Bakewell

You’re engaged (Yay!), and you were looking forward to planning your wedding. What you hadn’t planned on, though, was the arguing that you and your husband-to-be would be been having over EVERYTHING!

Ah, engaged life. This period can be a minefield…where even the minute topics can trigger huge blow-ups!

Use these tips to ease some of the pressure:

The guest list keeps growing. His family’s guest list is growing well beyond what you both agreed on, and it’s putting a bulge in your budget. To resolve this issue, keep it about the money. Tell him that you don’t mind adding more guests to his family’s portion of the guest list (because you certainly don’t want to cut anyone out), but ask him if he’d mind asking his parents to chip in for the added cost. If your guest list continues to grow, too, you should ask your parents the same question.

He doesn’t care about the details. Most men are clueless when it comes to design and décor…and they really DON’T care what the table cloths look like or what flowers you choose. This doesn’t mean that you should give up on including your spouse-to-be, though.

Give him choices. If he’s not interested in the linens, maybe he’s interested in the menu. If he could care less about the invitations, maybe he’d like to offer input on the music or photographer.

Let your man know that it’s his day…as well as yours. Just let him choose where he’d like to be involved.

Now he cares too much! Well, you wanted him to be involved in the details, and now he is. What you didn’t expect, though, is that his involvement would drive you crazy!

In order to stay sane, prioritize the details. If a detail is minute, and he feels strongly about it, let him have the “win.”

Remember, it’s good practice to learn early on how to prioritize, negotiate…AND compromise. These are all life skills that will come in handy after your wedding day.

You can’t agree on where to spend the big bucks. You want to spend it on your dress. He wants to spend it on a fantastic honeymoon. How do you decide?

Sit down with him, like two adults, and work out the finances of your wedding together…before you go dress shopping. After all, your dress is for you, the honeymoon is for both of you.

If he doesn’t care, though, then go for it! But have this discussion before you fall in love with the dress that costs as much as a trip to Europe.

His best man irks you. Sure, the guy’s been his friend since college, but you can’t stand him! Well, this time it’s important to be supportive, but also sensible.

If your groom’s best buddy is only about the party, respect their bond, but make sure you have some reliable and supportive guys around to help keep things under control. Arrange for your brother or another male friend to help your man resist the ploys of his best man. You might also share your anxiety with your guy, so that you can handle the situation together, if trouble does rear its ugly head.

Come back next week for Part 2 of Wedding Planning: Tips to Tone Down Tension.

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Lisa Bakewell